As as psychologist and an avid fan of both blogging and reading blogs, I think it is important to address the psychological challenges bloggers can face. All is not always rosy in Blogger Land. Believe it or not, it is possible to become addicted to this social medium. In this article I examine some of the myths, behaviors, personality characteristics, and red flags of a blogging addiction.
Here are some common myths about bloggers and addiction.
I can’t be addicted to blogging because it isn’t a mind-altering chemical.
I am employed, and only blog when I am not busy with my job, although I might blog at work if I have time.
I only blog on important topics – well, important topics to me.
I only blog to make a difference in people’s lives. If I don’t do it, who will?
I can stop blogging anytime I want. I just don’t want to stop. This is not hurting me or anyone else.
I am not addicted, that is a term for alcoholics and substance abusers – coke heads, meth addicts. Blogging isn’t a drug.
I still go to work every day and it doesn’t count if I work on my blog(s) during my downtime or check the website(s) for comments.
I hardly ever use a sick day to stay home and blog or to catch up on errands that didn’t get completed because of blogging.
Do you recognize yourself in any of those?
There are also some behaviors that have been identified as common in addictive personalities. With respect to blogging, these include:
Denying there is an issue with blogging. Denial is the ability to overlook negative consequences so as to be able to justify continuing to engage in a behavior. There might be an awareness that the blogging is creating turmoil, but the desire to blog is stronger than the pressure to stop. Loss of control, being unable to stop the behavior, and continuing to engage in the behavior regardless of adverse consequences are some of the most definitive features of addiction.
Lying about the time spent engaged in “blogging behaviors.”
Losing track of time and being late for events, appointments, and celebrations because of blogging.
Changes in sleep habits and patterns because of blogging or needing to respond to comments. Getting up in the middle or the night or very early before going to work to check the blog, write the blog, or make comments.
Feeling guilty or confused about the effect blogging is having on your life.
Disbelief that it is possible to be addicted to blogging.
Financial problems due to blogging—such as not paying bills on time because of being consumed by blogging.
Not all of these may apply, but if more than two describe you and your current blogging lifestyle it could be a red flag that blogging is impacting your life in a negative manner.
To sort this out, ask yourself the following questions:
Have you ever lost time from work because of blogging?
Does blogging create problems for you with other people in your life?
Do you blog because you feel shy and uncomfortable around others?
Have you ever felt guilty about blogging?
Have you ever argued with someone significant in your life about blogging and the time constraints involved?
Are you more careless in other areas of your life because of blogging?
Have you lost interest in other areas of your life since beginning to blog?
Do you blog to escape anything in your life?
Do you use blogging as a replacement for social interactions in the real world?
Do you feel compelled to blog and then feel a sense of elation once the blog entry is published – yet the high is short-lived and you feel compelled to begin again?
Do you feel restless if you do not blog?
If you answered “Yes” to two or more of those questions, blogging could be taking over your life.
Finally, let’s consider the characteristics of an addictive personality in general.
Impatience with self and others.
Anxiety in an exaggerated form. It is normal to feel anxious, but in addicts it is constant and chronic. Using the substance of choice, whether it be alcohol, substances, or the Internet, brings momentary relief.
Grandiosity – feelings of deep worthlessness and low self-esteem covered by haughtiness or pretending to “have It all together.”
Perfectionism – setting impossible and improbable goals for oneself. Perceived failures result in guilt and self-deprecation.
Rationalizations – Addicts of any sort are pros at this. Finding justifications for doing what one wants and making it all seem reasonable and plausible.
Isolation – Blogging is so consuming that it prohibits you from forming deep and lasting relationships outside the Internet world. You becomes a loner in the real world.
Sensitivity – to criticisms from others related to blogging behaviors.
Impulsivity – Having a great idea for a blog post and feeling the need to address it and write about it immediately. Becoming irritated if you are unable to blog when the idea presents itself.
Dependence – A strong dependence on others’ reactions and responses to what was posted. A need to be affirmed.
Discussing blogging as an addiction may seem odd, but it is possible to become addicted to anything. Addiction is addiction is addiction, regardless of the substance of choice. Can you identify with much of what has been written in this piece? A “Yes” may indicate a need to take a hiatus from the blogosphere for a time. If you are unable to stop blogging, then talking to a professional about this compulsion may be helpful. Underneath an addiction is a whole host of unresolved issues. The addiction just momentarily medicates the pain
Archive for February, 2009
Blogging: Addiction or Conviction
Thursday, February 19th, 2009Emotional Freedom Therapy
Sunday, February 8th, 2009Emotional Freedom Therapy
Emotional Freedom Therapy (EFT) is a simple, easy technique to learn which eliminates or lessens the emotional pain in trauma, abuse, panic, anxiety, fears, phobias, mild depression, addictions, and physical symptoms whose root causes lie in unresolved emotional issues.
Let me explain how it works and this is very simplistic on my part. EFT uses fourteen of the acupressure points from traditional Chinese medicine. Practioners use a different number of points, many use 8, others a few more. The beauty of this technique is that it is self-administered. Once you learn the simple “Tapping Techniques” you have mastered EFT. You tap with your fingers on pressure points along energy meridians in your body. You can download a a free EFT manual to facilitate learning more.
There are all kinds of research studies which confirm the effectiveness of EFT. Take a look and discover how and where it has been used with great success.
I have been fortunate because a mental health professional that I respect and admire taught EFT to me.Katherine Nuyens has a wonderful, gentle way of teaching and helping. She is willing to answer your questions via
email . Thank you Katherine for helping me improve my life. You are the best!
Casey Anthony: Profile Of A Sociopath
Sunday, February 1st, 2009Casey Anthony has finally been indicted for the first-degree murder of her daughter, Caylee Anthony. Casey is a sociopathic, superficial sensationalist. To a mental health professional, she fits the description of someone with an antisocial personality disorder – just a fancy name for “sociopath.”
The disorder is recognizable by a lack of concern for others, as evidenced by her behavior after Caylee disappeared. She did not call 911 to report her daughter missing; that task was left to her mother, weeks after Caylee disappeared. While her daughter was missing, Casey was out ”clubbing”, buying lingerie and other sundry items for herself from Target, and cooking dinner for her boyfriend and his roommates.
Casey has consistently displayed contempt towards authority figures, masked by a thin veneer of civility. Listening to the police tapes, it is easy to see that Casey appears to be quite respectful to the police interviewers. She portrays herself during these interviews as one who has been wronged by a (fictitious) babysitter named Zanny, who, according to her story, kidnapped her beloved Caylee. Casey has been, according to her and to her family, maligned, misunderstood, and martyred.
In reality, Casey believes she is above the law. She presents herself as a mother who is only interested in finding her child. Yet she has done nothing but lie to the police and fabricate stories.
Everything she does is designed to protect herself by outwitting and outsmarting the legal authorities. She continues to display a great disdain for law enforcement, as evidenced by her unwillingness to tell the truth or be in any way helpful in locating her daughter.
Socioopaths are superficially charming in their ongoing attempts to get their own way. Casey has the capacity to read others quickly and recognize their vulnerabilities. Once recognized, she knows how to exploit others’ weaknesses. She seems to have no qualms about violating the rights of others. Casey stole her friend’s checkbook and wiped out her bank account, and not a cent of the money was spent on Caylee.
It is typical for sociopaths to engage in illegal or deceitful behaviors. Compulsive lying is the norm. Guilt and remorse are not in their vocabulary. All sociopaths are incapable of feeling sorrow or sadness for their wrongdoings and destructive behaviors. Any tears you might see are for themselves. “I am crying because I got caught, not because I am sorry for anything I have said or done.” On some level, a sociopath takes perverse pleasure in getting away with illegal, irresponsible behaviors. Yes, a sociopath takes great joy in taking from others. “Joy” is the correct word.
To a sociopath, others are always expendable: family, friends, acquaintances. Once others have been bled dry, the sociopath moves on. Loyalty is not a part of who they are. They have no desire to change and no insight into their own behaviors and motivations. Caylee is missing, but Mom is partying and lying to both her friends and family about her daughter’s whereabouts.
Sociopaths are narcissistic and exhibitionistic, with no sense of shame. Nothing exists in their world but what they want – the ultimate “Me, Me, Me” syndrome. They are characterized by an excessive superficiality, in both thoughts and behaviors. They are easily bored and made restless by day-to-day responsibilities, an attitude which makes consistent parenting a drag and an impossibility. Sociopaths create their own reality, and in this instance, Casey’s world did not include her daughter.
Casey was a parasite, living off of others. She had no high-school education, no job, no goals, no direction. But, to hear her story, she worked at Universal Studios and was attending college. A sociopath always views his or her problems as stemming from flaws in others, rather than taking responsibility for his or her own issues and the havoc they have created.
As a sociopath, Casey wants to control her own destiny and create her own reality, abhorring any form of criticism or denigration. At some point, she might experience feelings of depression. These feelings would not be because her daughter is missing or dead, but because she lacks the freedom she craves. Having been arrested and accused, she is no longer in charge of her own fate, and for a sociopath, who values freedom more than anything else, that is devastating.
Interestingly, sociopaths like Casey will expect others to attempt to belittle or use them. At times, the sociopath will willingly act in such a manner as to induce others to legitimately respond in a hostile or angry manner. Casey has repeatedly demonstrated this with her continued lying, lack of sadness about her daughter’s disappearance, and few displays of emotions related to the fact that her daughter Caylee is missing or dead. Listening to the taped interviews, one can easily discern that Casey expresses almost no emotion when discussing her daughter’s disappearance.
Sociopaths are incapable of remaining in love, or of even selflessly loving anyone. Their sex lives are most often impersonal and chaotic, and frequently they are bisexual. There is in them an emptiness, a coldness, a disconnection from others and themselves. Casey is incapable of truly understanding how much others can be made to suffer as a result of her behavior. It does not compute.
A sociopath’s motto is: Competition is king, survival the agenda, and no one is ever, ever, ever to be trusted. A sociopath’s mantra: “Do unto others before they do unto you.”